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Try these 3 things to improve your brain health

June 14, 2018 by JaneSutter Leave a Comment

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This looks like a fun way to improve my brain health! (Photo credit: Todd Combs, Wikimedia)

In six months, I’ll be entering a new decade of life (the ’60s!), and I find myself focusing more and more on my brain health and my body’s fitness.

You know the adage: Eat right, exercise, get enough sleep, blah blah.

But I’m thinking a lot more about my brain health these days as I’ve seen my parents and other elderly relatives and friends slip into that dark and confusing world of dementia.

I’ve finally found a book that seems to offer sound, scientifically-based advice. It’s called Brain Rules for Aging Well: 10 Principles for Staying Vital, Happy, and Sharp. 

John J. Medina wrote the book. He works as a developmental molecular biologist and he’s an affiliate professor of bioengineering at the University of Washington School of Medicine.

Medina writes the book in a very engaging manner, with lots of examples of what works, easy to understand citations to studies, and references to real people and how they are living their lives.

Here are three things I’ve learned that I’m applying or plan to apply to my life, to age well:

Learn partner dancing. 

I can hear my husband laughing already. When it comes to dancing, I have two left feet and a tiny sense of rhythm. All the more reason to challenge myself. If I can play a decent game of golf, then surely I can learn to dance with a partner.

Here’s what Medina writes: “You can cover the dance floor with peer-reviewed papers showing the benefits of this regular, ritualized movement that forces social interaction. The scientific benefits are almost too good to be true.”

One study looked at healthy adults ages 60 to 94 who took a one-hour dance class every week for six months. It showed that hand-motor coordination improved, as did short-term memory, impulse control, posture and balance. And it didn’t seem to matter what type of dance, whether it was ballroom, jazz, tango, etc.

Participants also benefit from the human touch, as studies have shown touch gives cognitive and emotional boosts — in other words it boosts brain health. Also, dance provides social, face-to-face interaction, and Medina points out that social isolation as we get older affects us physically, in negative ways. I certainly don’t consider myself to be a senior citizen, but it’s good to know now that lonely seniors have poorer immune function and higher levels of stress hormones (which leads to health problems), and loneliness affects cognition negatively, Medina notes.

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Offering thanks every day puts me in a great frame of mind. (Photo credit: Pixabay)

Find something to be grateful about every day.

I’m already a pretty optimistic person. I’m not sure why — probably a host of reasons, including my Catholic faith.  Now I’ve learned that having a positive attitude toward my own aging can help me live longer than people who don’t. According to Medina, the seniors who take their health issues in stride (hearing loss, arthritis, etc.) and keep an attitude of “the glass is half full,” live 7.5 years longer than seniors who don’t.

More than a year ago, I started a daily “prayer process” that I was introduced to by reading the book Resisting Happiness by Matthew Kelly. The first point of the process is “Gratitude: Begin by thanking God in a personal dialogue for whatever you are most grateful for today.” All kinds of things quickly come to mind. Perhaps a phone call I had the day before with my best friend from childhood who lives in the Midwest. Perhaps it’s the gorgeous summer weather that’s finally arrived. Perhaps it’s that I’m visiting my elderly mother in Iowa and able to take her to a doctor’s appointment. No matter what it is, it starts my day in a positive way.

Medina writes about a psychotherapist named Martin Seligman who developed and then scientifically tested exercises on the ideas of thankfulness and appreciation. One of those exercises involves recalling and writing down three positive things that happened to you on a given day; then writing why they happened. Seligman found that doing this not only boosted happiness scores but also successfully treated depression.

In a world where it’s easy to find a lot to gripe about, stopping for a few minutes to be grateful for things in the here and now leads to happiness, and that in turn leads to better brain health.

Related post: Time management technique brings inner peace.

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Learning to play a musical instrument is a great way to challenge your brain. (Photo credit: Rick Otten from Pexels)

Learn a demanding skill. 

My husband and I are going to buy a piano. (Let me know if you have one for sale!)

I learned to play the piano as a kid, but I haven’t played regularly since I quit piano lessons as a teenager when I lost interest. For years, I’ve wanted to get a piano but until recently, I knew I wouldn’t make the time to play it. Now, after reading this book, I’m even more interested in playing again and taking lessons.

My husband has never played the piano, and now he wants to learn.

Medina writes: “Learning a demanding skill is the most scientifically proven way to reduce age-related memory decline.” Medina does a great job explaining various memory systems such as working memory (what used to be called short-term memory); episodic memory (recalling life events); procedural memory (for motor skills).  During aging, working memory and episodic memory tend to decline; procedural memory remains stable. And perhaps surprisingly, vocabulary increases with age.

You’ve probably read that learning a foreign language is also good for your brain health. Medina confirms that, stating that “bilingual people perform significantly better on cognitive tests than monolingual controls.” And it doesn’t matter how old you were when you learned that second language. There are long-term benefits to being bilingual or multi-lingual — normal cognitive decline is less steep and the risk for general dementia is less, too.

I love this quote from Medina:

“The more you lift weights in the mental gym, the more you postpone your otherwise natural memory decline. We even know the rate. Every day you exercise your brain above what you do typically delays that deterioration by 0.18 years.”

How about you?

The book has many more tips. Watch for an upcoming post on the MIND diet.

Having read Brain Rules for Aging Well, I’m now excited to try new things. What are you doing to keep your brain healthy? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Filed Under: Managing life Tagged With: brain health, Brain Rules for Aging Well, John Medina

5 takeaways on forgiveness in the workplace

April 5, 2018 by JaneSutter Leave a Comment

forgiveness can make you feel lighter
Truly being able forgive and get over a grievance can make you feel lighter!

We’ve all heard the saying “Forgive and forget” but giving forgiveness is easier said then done. We’ve all experienced grievances in the workplace, right?

“A co-worker got credit for work I did.”

“My boss blatantly lied to me to get me to do his dirty work.”

“An outsider got the job I wanted rather than me getting the promotion I deserved.”

Even though in our hearts (if we adhere to Christian teaching), we know we should forgive, and maybe we tell ourselves we did, but sometimes that sting still lingers.

Not long ago I read a book called Forgive for Good, by Dr. Fred Luskin, a professor and researcher at Stanford University. I picked it up because I knew I had some unresolved feelings about a situation and no matter how much I prayed and told myself I’d forgiven this person, I still felt wounded.

What I learned from Luskin is that when we feel the way I did, we create a grievance story, and that story is taking up precious space in our head.

Here are five major things in the book that resonated with me:

How do you know if you have a grievance? 

There are four questions that Luskin poses, and he says that if you answer yes to any one of them, you likely have a grievance “that is renting too much space in your head.”

Those four questions are:

  • Do you think about this painful situation more than you think about the things in your life that are good?
  • When you think about this painful situation, do you become either physically uncomfortable or emotionally upset?
  • When you think about this situation, do you do so with the same old repetitive thoughts?
  • Do you find yourself telling the story about what happened over and over in your mind?

What is forgiveness?

Luskin defines it as “the experience of peace and understanding that can be felt in the present moment. You forgive by challenging the rigid rules you have for other people’s behavior and by focusing your attention on the good things in your life as opposed to the bad.  Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or denying that painful things occurred. Forgiveness is the powerful assertion that bad things will not ruin your today even though they may have spoiled your past.”

I especially like that Luskin challenges the assertion that we need to forget. Years ago, when I had a direct report who screwed up and apologized, I would often think to myself, “I’ve forgiven her, but I’m not going to forget, because I need to keep watch to make sure this doesn’t become a pattern.” Of course, I may not have been taking it personally that she had screwed up. Feeling personally aggrieved is what makes forgiveness so hard.

What is not forgiveness?

Forgiveness doesn’t mean that another person had the right to hurt you or that he or she is getting away with it. It doesn’t mean we give up our right to feel angry or mistreated.

We don’t condone what they did to us and we don’t excuse their bad behavior. And it doesn’t even mean that you must reconcile with the offender.

How will forgiveness help us? 

In his research, Luskin has found that “forgiveness helps people control their emotions so they maintain good judgment. They do not waste precious energy trapped in anger and hurt over things they can do nothing about.”

One of the points that Luskin makes is that if you dwell on what happened, you’re giving the offender power over you. I dislike the idea that a person who has hurt me still retains power over me, don’t you? I want to feel strong, not wounded.

What are the steps to forgiveness?

Luskin offers a nine-step process to forgiveness. Here’s a brief summary: You start by understanding exactly how you feel and why what happened was not ok. You move into committing to do what you need to do to feel better, and understanding what forgiveness is.

From there, you move into practicing ways to deal with the stress of how you feel, and changing your expectations of people who won’t give you what you want. You look for other ways to get your goals met, and “remember that a life well lived is your best revenge.” Luskin reminds us that forgiveness is about personal power. And at that point, you can amend your grievance story “to remind you of the heroic choice to forgive.”

You can read all nine steps on his website here.

I hope that reading this blog may help you move on if you’re feeling aggrieved. I know I’m keeping these steps in mind.

I want to add a caveat here, related to the #metoo movement. I think anyone who has been physically or sexually abused absolutely should seek for the abuser to be punished. Likewise anyone who commits a crime should face legal repercussions. For victims of abuse, I know it may take an unfathomable amount of courage to come forward and tell authorities what happened and go through the legal process. It’s then up to that person to decide how it’s best for her or him to heal.  This blog is not for those situations necessarily although I can see how Luskin’s techniques could be helpful.

Are there times that you have felt hurt about a situation that happened in your workplace or personal life? How did you move on? If you haven’t moved on, will these tips help you? 

 

 

 

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Filed Under: Leadership, Managing life Tagged With: forgiveness, Fred Luskin, grievance story, workplace

Robin Roberts: Make your mess your message

December 8, 2016 by JaneSutter Leave a Comment

Robin Roberts shares her personal philosophies in this memoir.
Robin Roberts shares her personal philosophies in this memoir.

I just finished reading Robin Roberts’ fabulous memoir Everybody’s Got Something about her roller coaster ride dealing with a rare blood disorder called myelodysplastic syndrome (MDS).

I first saw Roberts on TV when she was a news anchor for ESPN. “Wow, that’s different,” I thought. I could hardly believe that I was seeing a black woman actually getting to anchor a sports show with the guys, and she was not relegated to the sidelines. Then she moved over to Good Morning America. “Good for her,” I thought. “Someone is recognizing her talent and she’s not being pigeon-holed into staying in sports coverage.”

When I was shopping at the Pittsford Library book sale recently, I saw her memoir, and I passed over it at first, then decided to buy it as I’m always looking for an inspirational read. I’m not a morning TV show watcher, and I don’t think I even knew Roberts had gone through a bone marrow transplant, although I did recall that she’d had breast cancer several years ago.

In her memoir, Roberts writes,

“In Mississippi, where I’m from, there’s an understanding that hard times don’t discriminate. My mother used to say, ‘Everybody’s got something.’ This is the story of my something and my road to something better.”

Yes, everyone has something, some pain, some problem, that they have to deal with. But the saying that stood out to me is another from Roberts’ mother: “Make your mess your message.”

That’s brilliant. If you face adversity, then somehow, some way, turn that into a cause. Roberts certainly did, by being open with her TV audience about her disease, her need for a bone marrow transplant or else she would die within two years. Lucky for her, one of her sisters was a 100 percent match. Roberts’ story inspired thousands of people to join the national bone marrow registry. The majority of people who need a bone marrow transplant never get one because they never find a match. Roberts also has spent time communicating and encouraging people who are waiting for that match.

Her book makes clear that her journey with MDS was no picnic; her mother passed shortly after she was diagnosed so she dealt with that grief in addition to her illness. I admire Roberts’ candor about her feelings and her struggles. Even if you’re a celebrity, it takes courage to share such a personal story.

What’s your mess? What’s your message?

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Filed Under: Book writing, Managing life, Non-fiction books Tagged With: ESPN, Good Morning America, MDS, Robin Roberts

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