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Try these 3 things to improve your brain health

June 14, 2018 by JaneSutter Leave a Comment

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This looks like a fun way to improve my brain health! (Photo credit: Todd Combs, Wikimedia)

In six months, I’ll be entering a new decade of life (the ’60s!), and I find myself focusing more and more on my brain health and my body’s fitness.

You know the adage: Eat right, exercise, get enough sleep, blah blah.

But I’m thinking a lot more about my brain health these days as I’ve seen my parents and other elderly relatives and friends slip into that dark and confusing world of dementia.

I’ve finally found a book that seems to offer sound, scientifically-based advice. It’s called Brain Rules for Aging Well: 10 Principles for Staying Vital, Happy, and Sharp. 

John J. Medina wrote the book. He works as a developmental molecular biologist and he’s an affiliate professor of bioengineering at the University of Washington School of Medicine.

Medina writes the book in a very engaging manner, with lots of examples of what works, easy to understand citations to studies, and references to real people and how they are living their lives.

Here are three things I’ve learned that I’m applying or plan to apply to my life, to age well:

Learn partner dancing. 

I can hear my husband laughing already. When it comes to dancing, I have two left feet and a tiny sense of rhythm. All the more reason to challenge myself. If I can play a decent game of golf, then surely I can learn to dance with a partner.

Here’s what Medina writes: “You can cover the dance floor with peer-reviewed papers showing the benefits of this regular, ritualized movement that forces social interaction. The scientific benefits are almost too good to be true.”

One study looked at healthy adults ages 60 to 94 who took a one-hour dance class every week for six months. It showed that hand-motor coordination improved, as did short-term memory, impulse control, posture and balance. And it didn’t seem to matter what type of dance, whether it was ballroom, jazz, tango, etc.

Participants also benefit from the human touch, as studies have shown touch gives cognitive and emotional boosts — in other words it boosts brain health. Also, dance provides social, face-to-face interaction, and Medina points out that social isolation as we get older affects us physically, in negative ways. I certainly don’t consider myself to be a senior citizen, but it’s good to know now that lonely seniors have poorer immune function and higher levels of stress hormones (which leads to health problems), and loneliness affects cognition negatively, Medina notes.

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Offering thanks every day puts me in a great frame of mind. (Photo credit: Pixabay)

Find something to be grateful about every day.

I’m already a pretty optimistic person. I’m not sure why — probably a host of reasons, including my Catholic faith.  Now I’ve learned that having a positive attitude toward my own aging can help me live longer than people who don’t. According to Medina, the seniors who take their health issues in stride (hearing loss, arthritis, etc.) and keep an attitude of “the glass is half full,” live 7.5 years longer than seniors who don’t.

More than a year ago, I started a daily “prayer process” that I was introduced to by reading the book Resisting Happiness by Matthew Kelly. The first point of the process is “Gratitude: Begin by thanking God in a personal dialogue for whatever you are most grateful for today.” All kinds of things quickly come to mind. Perhaps a phone call I had the day before with my best friend from childhood who lives in the Midwest. Perhaps it’s the gorgeous summer weather that’s finally arrived. Perhaps it’s that I’m visiting my elderly mother in Iowa and able to take her to a doctor’s appointment. No matter what it is, it starts my day in a positive way.

Medina writes about a psychotherapist named Martin Seligman who developed and then scientifically tested exercises on the ideas of thankfulness and appreciation. One of those exercises involves recalling and writing down three positive things that happened to you on a given day; then writing why they happened. Seligman found that doing this not only boosted happiness scores but also successfully treated depression.

In a world where it’s easy to find a lot to gripe about, stopping for a few minutes to be grateful for things in the here and now leads to happiness, and that in turn leads to better brain health.

Related post: Time management technique brings inner peace.

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Learning to play a musical instrument is a great way to challenge your brain. (Photo credit: Rick Otten from Pexels)

Learn a demanding skill. 

My husband and I are going to buy a piano. (Let me know if you have one for sale!)

I learned to play the piano as a kid, but I haven’t played regularly since I quit piano lessons as a teenager when I lost interest. For years, I’ve wanted to get a piano but until recently, I knew I wouldn’t make the time to play it. Now, after reading this book, I’m even more interested in playing again and taking lessons.

My husband has never played the piano, and now he wants to learn.

Medina writes: “Learning a demanding skill is the most scientifically proven way to reduce age-related memory decline.” Medina does a great job explaining various memory systems such as working memory (what used to be called short-term memory); episodic memory (recalling life events); procedural memory (for motor skills).  During aging, working memory and episodic memory tend to decline; procedural memory remains stable. And perhaps surprisingly, vocabulary increases with age.

You’ve probably read that learning a foreign language is also good for your brain health. Medina confirms that, stating that “bilingual people perform significantly better on cognitive tests than monolingual controls.” And it doesn’t matter how old you were when you learned that second language. There are long-term benefits to being bilingual or multi-lingual — normal cognitive decline is less steep and the risk for general dementia is less, too.

I love this quote from Medina:

“The more you lift weights in the mental gym, the more you postpone your otherwise natural memory decline. We even know the rate. Every day you exercise your brain above what you do typically delays that deterioration by 0.18 years.”

How about you?

The book has many more tips. Watch for an upcoming post on the MIND diet.

Having read Brain Rules for Aging Well, I’m now excited to try new things. What are you doing to keep your brain healthy? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Filed Under: Managing life Tagged With: brain health, Brain Rules for Aging Well, John Medina

Rochester SCORE honors owners of Imprintable Solutions, Dazzing Dust Bunnies

May 3, 2018 by JaneSutter Leave a Comment

Tina Paradiso, Jack Dailey
Tina Paradiso, owner of Imprintable Solutions, and SCORE mentor Jack Dailey

When Tina Paradiso bought a printing business five years ago, it turned out to be quite a different experience from what she had anticipated. The financials weren’t as good as she had thought, and “the back office was a mess.”

Now that company is the successful Imprintable Solutions. On May 3, Tina was honored as a “Client of the Year” by the Greater Rochester Chapter of SCORE.

Tina credited her two SCORE mentors, Jack Dailey and the late Tony Carlisi, with helping her to turn the company around. They guided her on streamlining processes to be more efficient, and figuring out how to grow the company using the resources she had.

At the “Client of the Year” luncheon held at Oak Hill, Tina thanked SCORE, its partner the U.S. Small Business Administration, and Pathstone with helping her make her business a success. When she was starting out, “I had no idea how rich in resources Rochester is for entrepreneurs,” she told the group of about 100 attendees. She also urged the business owners in the room to seek certification as a Minority or Women-Owned Business Enterprise (MWBE), which can help the business get contracts. Tina said 41% of her customers are due to her having the certification. She also bought a second business in 2016.

 

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SCORE mentor Kristin Ragona and Evie Hurt, owner of Dazzling Dust Bunnies

Also honored as a “Client of the Year” was Evie Hurt, owner of Dazzling Dust Bunnies, which provides cleaning services to homes. Kristin Ragona has been Evie’s SCORE mentor since 2014. Evie said that she knew when she started her cleaning business that she wanted to have employees, and be insured and bonded.

When she met with Kristin, “she gave me great information on the very first day”  and the two have continued to meet for mentoring sessions. Today, Dazzling Dust Bunnies has four employees and 50-60 regular clients in Orleans and Monroe counties. The Better Business Bureau has awarded the company a five-star rating. “We’re getting well known for the quality work that we do,” Evie said. “I don’t hire someone who doesn’t have the passion for house cleaning like I do.”

Each year, the Greater Rochester Chapter of SCORE honors clients who have worked with SCORE mentors over several years and have established profitable businesses. The event was part of a day of seminars on “Knowing, Growing and Protecting Your Business.”

To read about the 2017 Clients of the Year, click here. 

I’m the chairman of volunteers for the SCORE chapter, and we offer free one-on-one mentoring and low-cost or free workshops. This group does amazing work, I’m proud to say. I’m always looking for savvy business people to join our chapter as mentors. For more information on our chapter’s mentoring services, workshops or volunteering, click here.

 

Clients of the Year Tina Paradiso and Evie Hurt with SCORE volunteers Art Roberts (chapter chairman), Jack Dailey, Kristin Ragona and Bill Ritter (district chairman).

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Filed Under: Small business Tagged With: Client of the Year, entrepreneurs, SCORE, small business

5 takeaways on forgiveness in the workplace

April 5, 2018 by JaneSutter Leave a Comment

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Truly being able forgive and get over a grievance can make you feel lighter!

We’ve all heard the saying “Forgive and forget” but giving forgiveness is easier said then done. We’ve all experienced grievances in the workplace, right?

“A co-worker got credit for work I did.”

“My boss blatantly lied to me to get me to do his dirty work.”

“An outsider got the job I wanted rather than me getting the promotion I deserved.”

Even though in our hearts (if we adhere to Christian teaching), we know we should forgive, and maybe we tell ourselves we did, but sometimes that sting still lingers.

Not long ago I read a book called Forgive for Good, by Dr. Fred Luskin, a professor and researcher at Stanford University. I picked it up because I knew I had some unresolved feelings about a situation and no matter how much I prayed and told myself I’d forgiven this person, I still felt wounded.

What I learned from Luskin is that when we feel the way I did, we create a grievance story, and that story is taking up precious space in our head.

Here are five major things in the book that resonated with me:

How do you know if you have a grievance? 

There are four questions that Luskin poses, and he says that if you answer yes to any one of them, you likely have a grievance “that is renting too much space in your head.”

Those four questions are:

  • Do you think about this painful situation more than you think about the things in your life that are good?
  • When you think about this painful situation, do you become either physically uncomfortable or emotionally upset?
  • When you think about this situation, do you do so with the same old repetitive thoughts?
  • Do you find yourself telling the story about what happened over and over in your mind?

What is forgiveness?

Luskin defines it as “the experience of peace and understanding that can be felt in the present moment. You forgive by challenging the rigid rules you have for other people’s behavior and by focusing your attention on the good things in your life as opposed to the bad.  Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or denying that painful things occurred. Forgiveness is the powerful assertion that bad things will not ruin your today even though they may have spoiled your past.”

I especially like that Luskin challenges the assertion that we need to forget. Years ago, when I had a direct report who screwed up and apologized, I would often think to myself, “I’ve forgiven her, but I’m not going to forget, because I need to keep watch to make sure this doesn’t become a pattern.” Of course, I may not have been taking it personally that she had screwed up. Feeling personally aggrieved is what makes forgiveness so hard.

What is not forgiveness?

Forgiveness doesn’t mean that another person had the right to hurt you or that he or she is getting away with it. It doesn’t mean we give up our right to feel angry or mistreated.

We don’t condone what they did to us and we don’t excuse their bad behavior. And it doesn’t even mean that you must reconcile with the offender.

How will forgiveness help us? 

In his research, Luskin has found that “forgiveness helps people control their emotions so they maintain good judgment. They do not waste precious energy trapped in anger and hurt over things they can do nothing about.”

One of the points that Luskin makes is that if you dwell on what happened, you’re giving the offender power over you. I dislike the idea that a person who has hurt me still retains power over me, don’t you? I want to feel strong, not wounded.

What are the steps to forgiveness?

Luskin offers a nine-step process to forgiveness. Here’s a brief summary: You start by understanding exactly how you feel and why what happened was not ok. You move into committing to do what you need to do to feel better, and understanding what forgiveness is.

From there, you move into practicing ways to deal with the stress of how you feel, and changing your expectations of people who won’t give you what you want. You look for other ways to get your goals met, and “remember that a life well lived is your best revenge.” Luskin reminds us that forgiveness is about personal power. And at that point, you can amend your grievance story “to remind you of the heroic choice to forgive.”

You can read all nine steps on his website here.

I hope that reading this blog may help you move on if you’re feeling aggrieved. I know I’m keeping these steps in mind.

I want to add a caveat here, related to the #metoo movement. I think anyone who has been physically or sexually abused absolutely should seek for the abuser to be punished. Likewise anyone who commits a crime should face legal repercussions. For victims of abuse, I know it may take an unfathomable amount of courage to come forward and tell authorities what happened and go through the legal process. It’s then up to that person to decide how it’s best for her or him to heal.  This blog is not for those situations necessarily although I can see how Luskin’s techniques could be helpful.

Are there times that you have felt hurt about a situation that happened in your workplace or personal life? How did you move on? If you haven’t moved on, will these tips help you? 

 

 

 

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